Never say never & If it's meant to be, it will be

Long post, probably not worth reading

A huge percentage of the posts on this sub are of the "how do I talk my wife into cucking me" variety. I tend not to wade into those questions, because I'm not completely comfortable "talking someone into" doing something that they don't want to do. For instance, I don't like country music! I'm a hard rock guy, period! My wife does like country and I let her talk me into going to a Puke Bryan concert and guess what? I didn't like it, I couldn't wait for it to be over and I won't go again.

Soooo, with that said, here is the story of how I ended up having a very kinky marriage with a very vanilla woman, who I never tried to talk into any of it.

I'm a guy who has a lot of fetishes, most of which I've had since long before I even knew what they were. Cuckolding, SPH, Ball Busting, FLR, CBT, PFM, Etc, Etc. After years of contemplation, I'm pretty sure they are all based on SPH and are fetishized coping mechanisms I developed after being outed as having a small penis and being a premature ejaculator in high school. We can argue all day about weather this is healthy or not, but all these years later, I crave them all.

When my wife and I were dating I brought up the topic of 3somes. to which she said she'd never do something like that because it would be too weird. I just said, "really? you don't think the thought of having 4 hands, 20 fingers and 2 tongues exploring your body sounds pretty hot?" to which she kinda said "well, I don't know" I changed the subject and never really brought it up again. Flash ahead 4 years and we are married and one night we're road tripping home from a concert and my phone starts going off. It was an old friend of mine, or long story, short.. he knew about some of my kinks. Turns out he is in town and was wondering what i was doing. Since I was driving, I had my wife using my phone doing the texting. We told him we be home in an hour and were just planning to hit the hot tub and have a few more drinks. He said he didn't have a swimsuit, I told my wife to say he didn't need one, thinking she'd never say that, but she did. 1-1/2 hours later we are all in the hot tub talking with my wife sitting between us. I put my hand on my wife's knee and slowing slide it up between her legs only to discover my friend was already fingering her. Once I discovered that, I kinda started to push things along a little and ended up going down on her while she sucked his cock, and then they headed inside while I packed up the hot tub. When i got inside he was licking your pussy and I watched for awhile and then suggested I get a condom, which my wife thought was a good idea. Sadly, the alcohol consumption of the evening kind of caught up with them and the sex fizzled out pretty fast.

We talked about it and she admitted that it had be very exciting, but she thought it was just because of the alcohol and that she probably didn't want to attempt it again. So I dropped it.

Another year or so goes by. We are fooling around and talking and I'm finally telling her about how I like to be humiliated for having a small penis, and coming too fast. she thinks that's kinda weird and doesn't really want to do that. I did get her to give me the nickname "shorty" and she would occasionally call me "shorty" in a playful way. I was also discovering that I was into getting hit in the balls and she would do that a little, but again thought it was too odd.

THEN... we run into an old motocross buddy of mine at the lake our weekend place is at. Turns out his parents had bought a place in the nearby town, but never used it, so he came down on weekends. We talk to him for a bit and my wife said he seemed nice. The next weekend he sends me a picture of a fire pit and invites us into town. We go in and have a few drinks and have fun. Now, going into this, there are a few things I know about him that my wife does not. 1. He's fun to hang out with. he's charming, funny and a pretty good time. 2. He's totally hung and is a total man-slut who loves to hook up with married women. 3. He knows about many of my kinks. When were are getting ready to leave, my wife goes inside to use the bathroom and he asks me if she's into 3somes and stuff. I tell him about our drunken 3some, etc. He asks if I think she'd want to hook up. I said it's totally up to her, and that I would be fine with it. I didn't want to say anything to her that might make her feel pressured, so I told him that he'd have to ask her, but first he should follow my lead.

The next weekend we are back by the fire. This time when I fetch a drink for my wife I tell her it'll cost her a kiss. So the night goes on, and my buddy catches on and he goes a gets the last round and playfully demands his kiss, which my wife gives him a quick little kiss. The Next weekend we are back again, and this time I let my buddy fetch all of her drinks and by the third beer what started as a quick smooch was now full on make out sessions with tongue. My wife goes inside to use the bathroom and my buddy again asks me if I think she'd want to have sex. Again, I tell him it's up to her and he has to ask. So he takes a shot and goes inside.... 45 minutes later they come back out together laughing and smiling. She comes over to me and asks if i'm ok? I said i'm great and then she whispers in my ear, "I just got laid". to which I whisper back, "good for you!, I hope you saved me a little for later" She winked at me and we had one more drink then headed home. We were naked 5 seconds after getting home and I immediately started going down on her asked her to tell me what happened. She started with telling me how he was waiting there when she got out of the bathroom and that he'd started kissing her and then asked if he should get a condom.. She tells him yes and they move to the bed and start pealing each other clothes off and then she blurts out, "his cock is bigger than yours, I mean like a lot bigger!". Very HOT! the rest of the night was talking and sex and at one point I ask her if she'd want to do it with him again. She said she'd be ok with that, but it have to be something organic, not planned. that it'd be too weird to make a plan to have sex with him. OK...

Over the next 3 months we were there every friday night, and every time they ended up having sex. And not just sex, but the best sex she's ever had! During the first month, she went from someone who had never had a vaginal orgasm, and didn't think she even could have one, to having not one but multiple orgasms every time they hooked up. She also began changing her mind about the importance of penis size. She also started changing her mind on humiliation, etc. She started only calling me shorty, would make comments about not lasting long enough and even hit me in the balls right in front of him. It was a lot of fun! That phase of our relationship ended when my buddy was in a very bad auto accident that left him paralyzed. An attempt to find a new FWB for my wife ended with a STI scare.

Going forward, we are now in an FLR, we practice ball busting and sph, and I am basically pussy free, as I am only allowed to cum when she wants PIC sex, which has only happenned 3 times in the last year. Our sex life now is me going down on her and fucking her with toys while she slaps and squeezes my balls. I absolutly love all these things and they are all things that my wife said were too strange when I brought the ideas up, but somehow we have just gravitated into them "organically"!