would you ever date me UPDATE but similar

wrote [would you ever date me](https://www.reddit.com/r/AskMenAdvice/comments/176zp4t/would_you_ever_date_me/) a month ago and have a update

went on a couple dates

no sex!

on the second date we talked about kinks and ........... r/BallBusting

how common is this? i dont want to ask in the other sub because everyone will say that everyone does it

not kink shaming cause i understand the power exchange and some guys like attractive women to humiliate their weakness but im not sure if i should continue with him or get away from hurting guys and never look back