12 Days of Sensual Ballbusting: Day 8 - Verbals and Aftercare

12 Days of Sensual Ballbusting: Day 8 - Verbals and Aftercare

Aftercare could be as simple as cuddling and having a snack in bed, making sure your partner is hydrated, giving your partner a massage, wrapping them in a blanket to keep them warm, saying positive things to each other to reestablish your emotional connection after an emotionally degrading scene, etc.

I'm not going to talk a lot about aftercare because I don't think that is what you are here for but I thought it was worth mentioning for people who have not done BDSM before and might not know about it since it's not something that gets included in erotic literature or porn very often. With that being said, I do encourage you to look into aftercare for BDSM if you are doing more extreme stuff or if you or your partner feels they require it.

As a top I would make sure that my partner's physical needs are met first, getting them clean and making them feel warm and loved. Then I would get them water and food if they need it and then cuddle them while telling them how much they mean to me to build their confidence back up.

Even if you aren't playing very rough, past traumatic experiences involving the testicles could leave your partner in a fragile emotional state. If you are adding verbals that break down your partner's self esteem by belittling and humiliating them, that could also take an emotional toll. As a top you might have bad feelings about yourself and feel like a monster if your partner desires a lot of degradation. As a bottom, even if you desire degradation, having horrible things said to you by your partner while they are also playing with your most vulnerable organs can take an emotional toll even if you enjoyed it or the physical aspect wasn't painful. Take a moment afterwards to check in with your partner and offer them comfort and reassurance.

Aftercare isn't something that I do with my partner because neither of us really needs it. We will often just clean ourselves up, maybe have a drink of water and go to sleep. As you can see from what I've described here, I'm not really dominating my partner or causing him pain and I'm not breaking him down emotionally. However, all people are different and it's important to make sure you are meeting your partner's emotional and physical needs after you are done meeting their sexual needs.

My partner doesn't want to be belittled or humiliated during sex so I don't use those kinds of verbals when we play. We don't do a lot of dirty talk. Most of the things we say are more for communication purposes, telling each other what we want done or checking to see if the other is ok. I might have my hand wrapped around my partner's nut sack and ask "do you like that I'm squeezing this hard?", one of us will say something if we want to switch positions or I might tell him "ugh you got cum in my hair" - something he is totally not sorry for lol!

The type of verbals I like to perform during sex are moans. I will loudly moan like a pornstar, changing the pitch of the moan depending on what is being done to me or how it feels. My moans can let him know if he's doing a good job and he likes hearing the sounds I make. Sometimes I'll make high pitched moans and pretend I'm a tiny anime character being taken by some huge man (or monster! especially if we're doing double penetration with an anal toy). I also love to make deep, chesty, moaning sounds when I'm orally pleasuring a man because the vibrations feel amazing to him.

I also love it when a guy moans as he's eating me out. The vibrations make a difference but I especially enjoy it if I get to play with his balls at the same time. Sometimes when a guy is going down on me and I'm massaging his testicles, I'll pretend in my mind that I'm actually squeezing him harder than I am and he is moaning in pain or a mixture of pain and pleasure. Even though I have no interest in hurting my partner, this kind of thing going on in my mind can be very arousing if I'm in the mood for it.