12 Days of Sensual Ballbusting (Non-Fiction, a unique female perspective) Days 5-8

Continued from https://www.reddit.com/r/BallbustingStories/comments/18qqy2t/12_days_of_sensual_ballbusting_nonfiction_a/

**12 Days of Sensual Ballbusting: Day 5 - Using anchor points for force control - Part 1**

*I feel like this is some useful information that some might not consider when taking part in an activity like this but since we are going to be talking about maneuvers that could cause a lot more pain than intended if not done correctly, at the start of this post I would like to remind everyone what I said in the intro. I am in no way qualified to give advice on this topic and am just sharing my thoughts and experiences. Try this stuff at your own risk.*

Anchor points are basically what I call the technique I use to control the amount of strength used when striking the testicles in a sensual ballbusting session. They work to control the force in two ways. Firstly, they control the amount of follow through the strike will have so that it stops short before the strike becomes too hard. *similar to how I will wrap my hand around a dick that I am sucking so I can control how far it goes into my mouth if I'm not trying to deep throat it.* Secondly, the movement of these techniques makes it easier to control the speed of the strike so I can deliver the strike in a slow and controlled manner because I am flexing my small, agile joints (fingers, wrists, ankles) instead of using the whole big, clumsier but more powerful, limb (arm, leg). This chapter might be a bit more technical than sexy when compared to some of the other days, but **read on if you want to find out how I use my ankle and toes to knee a guy in the balls**. I also included a hot little piece of fiction that I thought you all might enjoy ;)

In short, the smaller the appendage and the further the joint is from the center of the body, the less amount of force it can produce and the more control you have.

For example: If I am going to sensually bust a guy with my hand, tapping with my fingers or slapping only using the motion of my wrist is going to be a lot lighter than slapping with my arm bending at the elbow or shoulder.

If you play certain instruments, draw or play sports you might already be familiar with these concepts. In sports you usually focus on the opposite end of the spectrum, using your whole body to throw a baseball, winding up and following through after release so that the ball will travel hard and fast. When you are drawing you have more control if you anchor your wrist or elbow to the surface you are drawing on. The same could be said for handwriting. A guitarist might anchor the tip of their pinky finger to a spot on the body of the guitar, below the strings, to give them more control when picking. I'm sure this concept applies to many different skills.

If I am pressing my face into a guy's balls from below as described yesterday I'm using my neck and jaw for pressure, I'm not trying to do a sit-up and launch my face into his groin with each press, that wouldn't be comfortable or sexy for anyone. The humping motion I described when rubbing his dick with my tits is from moving my hips and torso while my ass and shoulders remain in contact with the bed.

The same would apply when using any part of your legs. Flexing the ankle is going to give a lot less power than bending at the knee or swinging your whole leg but it will give you more control too, think of how often men mention how if they are being busted by a women with kicks, their thighs take a beating because the kicks aren't accurate and compare that to how often you miss the gas pedal in your car because your heel is resting (anchored) to the floor.

Anchoring to a specific spot like the bed or your partner is a good way to control the force. For instance, if I am going to knee a guy in a sensual environment this is what I'll do:

- I'll have him lie on the bed with his legs slightly spread.
- Then I get in a crawling position with my knees on either side of his leg.
- I'll put my knee on the bed a few inches below his testicles with my foot lying so the top of it is pressed against the mattress.
- Then I'll slowly bring my knee forward, dragging the top of my foot behind so that my knee doesn't swing too fast while I'm getting my positioning right.
- I place my knee so it is *gently* pressing into his testicles
Note: if you are new to this start with the knee barely touching the testicles, this will compensate a bit so if your anchor fails and your placement shifts a bit it isn't going to hurt your partner as much, once you get used to the motion and keeping your foot planted, if your partner would like you to use harder force, reposition your anchor using the method described in this step.
- **the top of my foot should still be pressed *flat* against the bed**. *This is important, remember what I said at the start about controlling the follow through, this is going to make it so that my foot can't travel far enough to hurt my partner by mistake. If your foot is not flat, your strike will have too much impact*
- I anchor my toes into that spot of the bed (by anchor I just mean that I am not going to move my toes from that spot, as if they are glued in place, I don't physically tie my foot down or anything like that).
- I bring my knee back using the motion of my ankle as my toes remain in place.
- Slowly, I bring my knee forward (while keeping my toes planted and only flexing my ankle) and press it into his testicles
- Repeating this motion and gradually increasing to a speed where I am lazily knocking my knee into his testicles.

*I hope all of that makes sense.*

Note: Increasing the speed of the strike does not also mean increasing the frequency! Even if you are only doing gentle knees DO NOT go rocketing your knee back and forth with the speed of a ticking clock or that is going to get painful really fast!
Note: If your partner does want you to go fast, I recommend having an agreed upon number of strikes before hand, like say 3, 5 or 10 depending on your experience and comfort level. After the agreed amount of strikes has been dealt, you check in with the bustee. This is a good idea to do no matter the speed really.
Note: If your partner has a problem and can't communicate with you and you are going too fast and not paying attention you may end up striking your partner far more times than he wanted.

*Let me paint a realistic fictional scenario for you:* Your partner is on the bed with his arms and legs bound. He cannot touch you to get your attention. You are not paying attention to his reactions because you are focusing on your technique or are lost in your own fantasy. You're kneeing fast and you don't notice that your toe anchor is slowly shifting forward with every thrust until the knees become too painful for your partner to bear. By the time your partner has been able to decide that it's too painful, you've already kneed him 3 more times and it keeps getting harder. Now your partner is in too much pain to speak, or maybe you've knocked the wind out of him. The poor guy is just lying there unable to tell you to stop and you keep kneeing him until you notice that his body is convulsing as he tries to squirm away from you. How long has he been doing that? By now you've ankle cranked your knee into his balls 20 more times after it became too much for him. You have turned this into a traumatic experience for him and he never wants to do this again. Now the experience is ruined for the both of you and you've caused your partner tremendous pain because you stopped paying attention and didn't check in in regular intervals.

In conclusion, anchoring my toes and only using the motion of my ankle to move my knee is going to give me a lot more control and a lot less speed and strength than swinging my knee back using the part where my leg meets my hip and then bringing it forward like a battering ram with no anchor to control how far the knee travels forward.

*For fans of Strange Sympathy, sensual kneeing is Lauren's favorite way to bust a guy so look forward to seeing more of this, I've already written three scenes of her kneeing Dave in the balls multiple times in a row, in future installments. She's a bit rougher than I am though, gotta give the readers what they came for after all ;)*


**12 Days of Sensual Ballbusting: Day 6 - Edging**

Ok so I hadn't really planned on talking about this but something inspired me to write about edging and the special way that I do it with my partner that I don't think is very common.

My partner can last a long time but I can also make him cum very easily if I want to. When we are in bed I am usually focusing more on pleasuring him than I am on getting myself off because I love watching how he reacts to everything I do to him. That is the fun part for me.

My partner loves getting edged and I can do it to him for hours. We both enjoy when I do it for him. The thing is, I don't think we do it the same way other couples do. I am not the one who stops when he gets close. When he gets close he pulls away from me, pleading with me to stop before he blows his load.

If I am using my hands to pleasure him and he squirms away, I keep my hand around his balls. Sometimes I'll squeeze or pull on his balls insistently while I wait for him to recover or I'll let go and lower my hand and hold it flat, a few inches below his balls and then flick my wrist up, impatiently slapping his testicles from below while I wait.

Sometimes I don't make it easy for him and I keep teasing him. He is so cute when he is squirming and begging me not to make him cum yet. I don't punish him if he cums, usually the punishment for him is that if he cums playtime is over before he wants it to be.

Sometimes if I tease him too much he ends up blowing his load all over my face or chest. That's my "punishment". After that he continues to pleasure me while I continue to gently slap, squeeze, press, pinch, pull and massage his testicles for my own amusement. Often when this happens, it will go on for so long that he is able to recover and start edging again and then we cum together.


**12 Days of Sensual Ballbusting: Day 7 - Using anchor points for force control - Part 2**

*I feel like this is some useful information that some might not consider when taking part in an activity like this but since we are going to be talking about maneuvers that could cause a lot more pain than intended if not done correctly, at the start of this post I would like to remind everyone what I said in the intro. I am in no way qualified to give advice on this topic and am just sharing my thoughts and experiences. Try this stuff at your own risk.*

Welcome to Anchor Points - Part 2, I'm just going to get into it so read Part one if you haven't already.

I'm not going to get into kicks but let's talk a bit about feet. If I am pressing my foot into a guy's balls, I'll have a lot more control over the force if I anchor my heel in front of his balls and then press with my toes or the ball of my foot using only the joints in my foot and ankle rather than flexing at the knee or hips with no anchor. *Remember what I said about gas pedals in Part 1*

Ok so let's talk about elbows. I don't have a lot of experience with these, most guys don't really ask for them and I've never had interest in giving them. It can also be kind of awkward to elbow someone in the balls while also stimulating their cock.

My partner doesn't like sensual ballbusting unless his cock is being stimulated but lately I've been experimenting with a form of elbowing from below while my partner goes down on me. Success with this maneuver may depend on how long you and you partner's limbs are and width might also be a factor. Even though I have managed to do this on multiple occasions, it can be hard to find the right positioning.

It starts with me lying on my back and my partner kneeling beside my shoulder, facing my feet. He leans forward and puts his head between my legs and I start by jerking off his dick with the hand that's farthest from where he is kneeling, so if he's kneeling on my right, my left hand is wrapped around his cock and my right arm is lying flat against my side. Then I bend my right arm and reach far back between his legs from the front and grab onto the back of his thigh. I use the tips of my fingers as an anchor point on the back of his thigh. Then I flex my fingers in a cupping motion and use my shoulder joint to either rub and bump my forearm or elbow into his balls and taint. If my arm was longer or his legs were shorter this would probably be easier to accomplish.
Note: Results will vary depending on where you place your anchor.

**12 Days of Sensual Ballbusting: Day 8 - Verbals and Aftercare**

Aftercare could be as simple as cuddling and having a snack in bed, making sure your partner is hydrated, giving your partner a massage, wrapping them in a blanket to keep them warm, saying positive things to each other to reestablish your emotional connection after an emotionally degrading scene, etc.

I'm not going to talk a lot about aftercare because I don't think that is what you are here for but I thought it was worth mentioning for people who have not done BDSM before and might not know about it since it's not something that gets included in erotic literature or porn very often. With that being said, I do encourage you to look into aftercare for BDSM if you are doing more extreme stuff or if you or your partner feels they require it.

As a top I would make sure that my partner's physical needs are met first, getting them clean and making them feel warm and loved. Then I would get them water and food if they need it and then cuddle them while telling them how much they mean to me to build their confidence back up.

Even if you aren't playing very rough, past traumatic experiences involving the testicles could leave your partner in a fragile emotional state. If you are adding verbals that break down your partner's self esteem by belittling and humiliating them, that could also take an emotional toll. As a top you might have bad feelings about yourself and feel like a monster if your partner desires a lot of degradation. As a bottom, even if you desire degradation, having horrible things said to you by your partner while they are also playing with your most vulnerable organs can take an emotional toll even if you enjoyed it or the physical aspect wasn't painful. Take a moment afterwards to check in with your partner and offer them comfort and reassurance.

Aftercare isn't something that I do with my partner because neither of us really needs it. We will often just clean ourselves up, maybe have a drink of water and go to sleep. As you can see from what I've described here, I'm not really dominating my partner or causing him pain and I'm not breaking him down emotionally. However, all people are different and it's important to make sure you are meeting your partner's emotional and physical needs after you are done meeting their sexual needs.

My partner doesn't want to be belittled or humiliated during sex so I don't use those kinds of verbals when we play. We don't do a lot of dirty talk. Most of the things we say are more for communication purposes, telling each other what we want done or checking to see if the other is ok. I might have my hand wrapped around my partner's nut sack and ask "do you like that I'm squeezing this hard?", one of us will say something if we want to switch positions or I might tell him "ugh you got cum in my hair" - something he is totally not sorry for lol!

The type of verbals I like to perform during sex are moans. I will loudly moan like a pornstar, changing the pitch of the moan depending on what is being done to me or how it feels. My moans can let him know if he's doing a good job and he likes hearing the sounds I make. Sometimes I'll make high pitched moans and pretend I'm a tiny anime character being taken by some huge man (or monster! especially if we're doing double penetration with an anal toy). I also love to make deep, chesty, moaning sounds when I'm orally pleasuring a man because the vibrations feel amazing to him.

I also love it when a guy moans as he's eating me out. The vibrations make a difference but I especially enjoy it if I get to play with his balls at the same time. Sometimes when a guy is going down on me and I'm massaging his testicles, I'll pretend in my mind that I'm actually squeezing him harder than I am and he is moaning in pain or a mixture of pain and pleasure. Even though I have no interest in hurting my partner, this kind of thing going on in my mind can be very arousing if I'm in the mood for it.

Last part here https://www.reddit.com/r/BallbustingStories/comments/18qr1j9/12_days_of_sensual_ballbusting_nonfiction_a/