Upward vs downward spirals

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I want to talk about an upward spiral I experience when traveling that will show why it's preferable to just improving yourself and trying to live your best life in the states.

First, I'll describe the downward spiral of life in the states. I'm walking in a typical American town. No one is smiling. It's rushed and impersonal. Women either look through me, avert their gaze, or look at me like something they accidentally stepped in and ruined their shoes. Approaching them is met with an eye roll, a cringe or a sorry I have a boyfriend. I know men are supposed to be stoic and unphased by everything, but I'm not. My demeanor becomes deflated after experiencing this atmosphere for a prolonged time. I become cynical and disinterested in other people, in attempting to socialize or flirt. I see less and less point in making an effort to style myself, be outgoing, or meet new people. Everyone is busy, stressed, mistrustful, polarized. I follow suit. This is the downward spiral that a man might experience living in the states.

Now, the upward spiral. I'm strolling through a town in [passport bro country]. It's likely sunny and warm. People are relaxed and smiling. Even while working, there is a sense of cheerfulness. I don't understand the language but the chatter feels jovial. People say hello to me and offer whatever they might be selling. Women smile at me. Children wave at me. My disposition rises. I stand up straighter, I smile more. It feels good. Every day is like this. I can approach a woman and have a pleasant interaction even with the language barrier. I can exchange numbers, I can can secure a date. No wierd gender war dynamic, no tense sociopolitical undertones. I feel compelled to dress and look and behave better to improve my already positive impression I make on others. So on and so forth. This is the upward spiral of positive experiences causing positive attitude and behavior changes that a man can experience when traveling.

Now, for all the alpha winners who's life is amazing in the states and have no idea what I'm talking about, I'm happy for you. Stay put. But I'm not insane, I know there are guys who know what I'm talking about. There is a growing number of isolated, atomized men who have no social group, no roots in where they live. They do nothing but work and sleep. Those guys aren't bad people, they don't deserve to miserable in the states. They owe it to themselves to take a trip and experience the upward spiral for themselves