Ballbusting erotica and audiences

My understanding is that the bulk of the audience for erotica is women, but my impression is that most erotica of ballbusting is aimed at men.

To an extent this makes obvious sense - while a lot of women are capable of enjoying ballbusting, the pool of men actively interested in it certainly seems larger than the pool of women actively interested in it.

I've been dabbling a little in writing erotica, and naturally I've been writing stories that appeal to me, a male sub. If possible, I'd like to write stories that appeal to both roles. Women of this sub, do you read ballbusting erotica? What do you tend to like in it, what are some peeves of yours that keep you from enjoying it? With respect to the point of view, do you prefer a woman as the point of view character, or do you like seeing the sub's perspective?

For all members of the sub, a general discussion point: do you think that writing for one role is necessarily at odds with writing for the other?