New to chastity

Hi, I’ve recently started full time chastity with my gf and I am loving it.

I’m on day 5 right now of 24/7 being caged, which also means no sex or masturbation. My gf has all the keys.

Obviously I could pull out and relieve my urges, but I don’t want to, it seems pointless, silly and weak. I want to do this for her (and me). I am loving giving her this control.

I would have so much trouble refraining from masturbating on my own without this dynamic. And the combination of not masturbating and the dynamic the cage creates in terms of giving her this control has been so beneficial to our relationship.

I am so much more physically, verbally and emotionally intimate with my gf. There’s been so much cuddling and touching, and I’m expressing my love for her and how attracted I am to her more. Right now I feel so incredibly lucky to have her, and like I would give up cumming for the rest of my life to make her (us) happy.

I feel like jerking off daily (often repeatedly) was just making me so emotionally blocked, and also like I’m finally at an age and stage of my life where I can let go of feelings of ego and shame around sex that would have prevented me from doing this in the past (also with the help of EMDR).

Don’t get me wrong, I want her sexually, badly, and would be so stoked to be given the gift of that at any moment. But having to wait, being willing to wait, choosing to give her my sexuality completely, and receiving the benefits of the emotional and non-sexual physical intimacy that comes with it is amazing and I don’t want to lose that.

I think in time I’ll get to a place of more self control where the cage is a kinky accessory we can use or not use, and I can just be chaste for her without it. But for now, this has been and continues to be a wonderful experience.