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Boot Worshippers tend to be attracted to dirt and filth more than most of their kinksters, so my question for you is what’s the sexiest kind of dirty to be made to clean off a partners boots? It can be a substance (eg dust), a location (eg bar dirt) or ‘Unknown’
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Wasn’t the one that ended in screaming. Wasn’t the one where they tried to turn my friends against me. Didn’t come with fights, with spite or with recrimination. It came when the love of my life told me she was gay and couldn’t love me anymore. She never cheated, she was never unsupportive or unloving. She was the same beautiful, fun, funny, kindhearted amazing woman on the day we parted a...
So the code of Omertà is so strong that you can’t even admit that the Mafia exists in court without being seen as a rat. Helping the police in any way against another made man would be seen as ratting, so my question is, when Tony got Feech pinched by his parole officer and sent back to the nick, why wasn’t it snitching?
Something that kinda grinds my gears in online D/s culture is that when a Domme struggles to find a submissive it is discussed as an issue of compatibility, whereas when a sub fails to find a dominant, it is discussed as an issue of worth. Has anyone else noticed this discrepancy, or is it just me?
I have a project I’m working on which requires strips of leather to be cut, dyed, sealed and then stiffened into shape. I’m worried that the process for stiffening the shape (soaking then heating in the oven) will be detrimental to the dye and seal, but if I can avoid it, I’d rather not dye on the shape straps as they’re an awkward shape and I know they’ll drip. And advice would be great...
The first time I learned that drop didn’t always feel the same was my first scene after a breakup. The relationship I had been in was long term, loving and supportive. We had done degradation play, and I’d never experienced drop from it because in my mind, it was easy to tell that it wasn’t ‘real’. The first time afterward though, it absolutely killed me because my certainty that I wasn�...
Something that’s been on my mind a lot is that a lot of advice given to subs is how they can be a better servant to their dominant, but there’s little advice for how to be better members of the community. It’s something I’ve noticed especially among male subs, who can be quite isolated and easily exploited by unethical dommes. The thought came to mind when I saw some Domme or other asking ...
Hello! Have any of you ever taken back an ex dom/me? How did it go? A former Domme (38f) and I (35m) recently started talking again after our breakup in January. At first it was just “I miss you” type chat. Then eventually, we went for dinner, then after a few weeks, she asked if we could play again. I said yes. Our dynamic had rocky patches, but none of those were ever play related, she was a...
The Halo effect is where people assume that excellence in one field equates to excellence in other unrelated fields: this is most commonly used example of this is that beautiful people are often assumed to be good people. It’s something I’ve noticed in kink too: because kink is so tied to attraction, there’s often an assumption that more attractive partners are better submissives, better dom...
Hello- I was wondering how GFD might blend with cuckolding, or are they too opposite to work?
Ones that would take hours to kick clean and maybe even get a sub sick?
I thought I’d try locktober this year. Found a friend who’d be willing to be my key holder. Ordered a cage- couldn’t get the back loop over my balls. Ordered another with a multi-part assembly and an open ring at the back, same story. Because I’m fat, there’s not a lot of loose space behind my balls, and it makes fiddling with an area I can’t really see difficult, and even once all the...
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I see your stories on Instagram, I see the way you take them on trips, and on dates, all the fun times and all the little gifts. I’m glad you’re happy and I wish you the best with them. I can never tell you this because I don’t want to be seen as bitter, I don’t want to actually hurt you but seeing this hurts me. It hurts the part of me that knows that, while you would take them across the...
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I had these for a bigger writing on fetlife: do they make sense to those of you who are subs and solo? 1. You have value beyond your utility 2. Nobody else defines the terms of your submission 3. there is nobody you can’t say no to. 4. not everything is someone’s fault. 3. You are no less valued for being ‘unowned’ 4. its ok to be sad 5. its ok to doubt 6. be kind and demand kindness 7. ho...
What are some affirmations (either from you or from your dominant) that help you get by in subby life?
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I’m writing a pub quiz as a fundraiser for a local kink group and want to have a round on kink terms from around the world! So I’m asking you, kinky Reddit hive mind. What are some good (non-English) kink terms that you know?
So. I’m (35m) starting to open myself up to the idea of another service dynamic. However, I find the vibe/ethos of Femdom in online spaces somewhat dispiriting. For context, this is not an observation about kink in general. Kink has been good to me, I’ve lots of friends in the local scene, I attend parties and I play with some really great people. But I miss the intensity and the feelings of b...
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One of my favourite murals has been torn down, *Carefree* on the Newtownards Road, and I’m a bit gutted by it. It was the one of the smiling hippy woman just dandering about. It always cheered me up to see it and the place is poorer for its loss, especially because it felt so wholesome around all the juvenile power fantasy/lamppost pissing ones, but it never felt twee or forced like some of the ...
Where in Belfast does the best Gravy rings? I’m not sure if it’s nostalgia or what, but I just had one from Orrs that was _alright_ but not the majesty I remember
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Why is Comber pronounced Cumburr? Thon Wikipedia says its etymology is Gaeilge, but there’s no ‘B’ even in the word what it’s derived from.
Something has been playing on my mind since the breakup of my first and only dynamic and I was wondering if any of you had anything to add to it. I feel like, for the vast majority of our dynamic, I put in most of the effort, physically, emotionally and financially. I spent a lot of time thinking up ways to spoil her and treat her, learning new things about her and learning new skills to be of bet...
Something I enjoy about Femdom, but in particular the more gentle strain is hard to articulate, but it might be called ‘liberation from masculinity’. FWIW, I’m a cis male sub, and I’m 34. For a dominant in this style of dynamic, liberation from masculinity might mean freedom to act in her own interest, to centre her own pleasure away from the male gaze. To be unapologetically demanding and...
Like the title says. If you had a Time Machine, how would you either stop the troubles from happening or reduce their collateral damage?
I’d love to see some of you in dirty hiking boots, the treads all crusted with mud and filth. I’d pay to see this if anyone is interested
What do you consider to be the most difficult part of being a submissive guy for your mental health, and how do you get around it or work through this? The reason I ask is that I recently saw a writing on Fet by a Domme on the difficulties of being a male sub, and while I feel that it was accurate in its broadest sense, it didn’t really capture how alienating and lonely the experience can be.
So: I’m (34m) in a dynamic with my Domme (36f). It’s not a romantic dynamic, and she has a primary partner in her wife. Our dynamic encorporates occasional play and a more ongoing service/finsub thing. I enjoy both parts. Yesterday we met for coffee and she pitched an idea to me: that I’d be kept in chastity for a week and that my finances would be cut back to the barebones, including limiti...
Hello. I’ve come across a seemingly obscure classical mythology reference to the above figure in a trad music song called ‘bad luck to the rolling water’ and I was wondering if any of you had any insight? The full verse is “She might not have been Aurora, a Flora or Diana, But she sang songs in the back tap room along to the ould piana. She was not Euternatia, nor was she Venus bright, But...
There’s a lot of chat here around preferred methods, toys, how extreme, how much damage, what shoes, what models, etc. But I’ve yet to see this question posed: what sort of tone do you like in your content? What sort of emotions? Playful? Fearful?
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For those of you who live in Belfast, where would you consider the boundaries of North, South, East and West Belfast to be? Is there a Centre Belfast? Is there overlap/frontiers? How far out does each part go before people become culchies?
So, last year, my long term relationship ended. I thought I would be ok, in time; but I’ve found that I’ve become increasingly sensitive to rejections and it’s really starting to impact me. So, earlier this week, a group of people I would have considered my friends booked to go to an outdoor event and didn’t invite me. I found out accidentally from overhearing some of them talk about it. A...
Hello everyone! Just a question as it says on the tin- did you always like your femdom gentle, or did you approach it from a different perspective? I ask because I started from the perspective of someone with a strong fetish for trampling- I had assumed that with the thirst for bloody violence came the need for aggressive femdom. But I recently met someone really amazing, someone kind and thoughtf...
So I had a few runs of DE there and failed very early on: took a heart attack after bucketing into Lena, took a heart attack failing to batter the Cuno, gave up on life after trying to catch my coat. All fun and games. The fourth run I started was the funniest though. Harrier woke up in the hostel room but refused to stand up, instead, he just spun around on the floor like a disco record. Played t...
Hello Everyone! I’m looking to make a harness for myself for attending fetish events. I’ve had very little luck purchasing them online as I’m quite a heavyset fella, and I was wondering if anyone had made one for themselves, and what advice they might have? Specifically I’m looking for advice on a few areas: 1) Material. I understand leather is the most common, but has anyone had any luck ...
Lads, Ladies, Linbetweens. I need your help. I come to you in an hour of great need. Some family from England are visiting on Easter Sunday as part of a cruise. They’ve asked me what there is to do on the day they arrive. Normally, my plan would be St George’s Market, then a rake of creamy pints and the something nice for tea, but I suspect everything will be closed for the day. Does anyone kn...
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So I was going in to get a look at getting a tattoo of A’Tuin, surrounded by the words ‘here and now, you are alive’. I had my design appointment and that artist made a typo of “Here and now you are a liver” and it took a lot of willpower to resist asking him to stet it, because in a few PTerry books, a spelling error is used to provide idiosyncratic detail (The truth shall make ye Frep,...
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So. ADULTS with dyspraxia. Quick question, how many of you have fairly significant sexual kinks? I was at a local munch this weekend and a lot of people there were Dyspraxics, ADDists and Autistics. Apparently it’s a fairly strong correlation. So how many of you all ones does it apply to? [View Poll](https://www.reddit.com/poll/111mn4f)
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I’m not sure if this was intentional misdirection or if I just read too much into it, but I remember being surprised when brother watchtower from the Elucidated Brethren of the Ebon Night didn’t end up being Nobby given Nobby’s love of grumbling, recreational dressing up and nocturnal habits. Furthermore, everyone else in the brotherhood seemed to be given a name based on their trade (brothe...
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r/lgbt
2022-10-07
Need Advice :snoo_thoughtful:
Hey everyone. First time poster. I’ll cut to the chase. I’m a straight cis male in his early thirties, my partner is a cis lesbian at the same age. We’ve been dating for 11 years 11 months, and she recently came out to me and we agreed to end our relationship. We were both devastated, but we both want what’s best for eachother and agreed this was best for both of us. I let her know that no...
What’s everyone’s part of the NG+ experience? Although I didn’t like the Joyce Messier seducing Evart Claire plot line, I did enjoy seducing Titus Hardie using the Encyclopedia check. I also enjoy that the first words you speak to Lt. Kitsuragi can be “There’s a sniper on the Island” and with high enough Shivers it works. And those combat mechanics are superb. I enjoyed the vehicle sec...
Or rather, to make staying in Britain a more appealing prospect than a more appealing prospect? The big takeaway I got from the census is that more people are considering the future of Northern Ireland as a pragmatic rather than tribal affair- weighing up economies, social service provisions and what have you. The future of this place is going to depend on wobbly nationalists, lundies and other mi...
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What do youse reckon the results will be? What do you reckon the reaction will be?
Just finished my first playthrough. Sink a lot of points into ✋ 👁 to analyse the bullet. All checks fail. Finally get to the tribunal. Listen to the tie, pull out the spirit bomb. Huff up the speed. 97% chance to hit. York bomb. Bomb sails past man built like an ocean liner and burns bollard. Apologetic cop mode engaged. Gym teacher my ass.
No, it’s not a misspelling of the Duke’s name. My question is, what other media have you enjoyed that has given you a dis world ‘vibe’? Whether it be in its content matter, style, portrayal of characters, or what have you? As a starting point, I’d like to raise Disco Elysium. The main character is a substance-troubled detective (like Vimes), paired with a by-the-book outsider with an iro...
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I’ve posted here before about satisfying weapon runs (I argued it was the incinerator followed by the throwing spears, then the beartrap fist). But I was inspired to stemsrt a shotgun/luck based build, and it’s absolutely amazingly good fun. With a combo of shotgun surgeon, stay back and a hunting shotgun it’s crazy good fun to VATS a deathclaw into fainting and then knock off their dome as ...
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I’ve seen a lot of discussions in here over whether Vecna/Henry/One/Alex De Large controls the mindflayer or vice versa cabs I think we’re maybe missing a bit of a theme. Throughout the last season, numerous characters engage in fraught alliances borne of necessity: Hopper allies with ‘Enzo’, they in turn ally with Yuri to escape Russia. Dr Owens allies with Dr Brenner, and El allies with ...
So: Lego Lanius and General Oliver are the games two final bosses, but they’re not very satisfying to beat, in a narrative sense, because it’s the first time you meet either of them. They might be the head of these huge forces, but they’ve not done anything to you personally, so either talking them down or blowing them up feels like it doesn’t really belong anywhere: compared to Caesar, Be...
So, like many of you, I started up a six gun and mustachio VATS cowboy build, big iron on the hip, all that song and dance. I got a .357 revolver and eventually got Lucky once I hit Primm. Things were going smoothly enough until I got jumped by a band of legion assassins on the Nipton back road. I pulled out the old barker and aimed at the dog hat of the lead guy, fired five shots, all of them sai...
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I absolutely love this game, but I fear I’m trapped in a loop, and every time it happens, it breaks my heart. I’ll start a new lineage, sink time into it and gradually build up a respectable stash, a solid lineage, and maybe even live out a few life goals. I’ll be chugging through the skies, getting ready to pull out of a station and then *it* will happen- my train will get trapped in dock, ...
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Afficionados of Dice and Deck, help me out here- I remember seeing a game a few years back set in a Swiss hotel where the aim was to move people around to fill different rooms to pass nuclear secrets and no combination of words on BGG seems to bring it up- does anyone remember this game, or do I have tunnelling brain parasites?
This kid I work with says he can’t come into the office because he has Ligma. I miss when people weren’t afraid to put in a hard days work
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Givan his two weeks notice lol
Has anyone else seen in? What’s you make of it?
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Is there a rule that prohibits Catholic clergy from having beards? I notice that Rabbis, orthodox Priests and imams all seem to have big bushy beards, and Protestants preachers tend to be a fairly mixed bag, hut I’ve never seen a catholic priest or Lutheran priest with one. Is this a rule? A social norm?
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I’ve been making some wire bonsai trees and looking to put them in a pot with some small pebbles- what adhesive would you recommend for sticking a 3” by 4” by 1” heap of tiny pebbles together?
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What are your favourite non-point victory condition from board games?