Helpful advice: Findom is like gambling

Sometimes your investment pays off (in terms of whatever gets you off as part of being a sub). Sometimes you get nothing in return. So it’s sort of like a gamble, except you never recoup those dollars financially.

Remember: Your currency is in return for your kink.

So, whatever that return is for you (pics, verbal conversation, irl activities, etc.) you should always go into any domme transaction knowing that you’re not getting that money / investment back and any return may also not yield the results you want.

And for the dommes - sometimes us subs need to regroup financially for any sort of reasons. We also have bills to pay, necessities in life or other monetary commitments. So, if we say we need a week or two before playing with you, sure it may mean we’re a broke finsub or a time waster to you. However for some of us experienced subs, it means we’re not going to jeopardize ourselves to the brink of being in trouble (and trust me I’ve gotten in lots of financial trouble as a result of being desperate to please my domme). So, be respectful of our boundaries.

Any worthwhile domme who has been doing this for some time will always think of the long term investment and not the short term gain. “For richer or poorer” may not apply to findom relationships but any meaningful and real bond between domme and sub will withstand any roller coasters throughout the course of the relationship.