Slow down and you’ll be a better domme and sub

I’ve been chatting with a domme here who was struggling with ghosting. My advice - don’t rush into the dynamic . Of course there’s a huge adrenaline rush of meeting someone new. The excitement to play is palpable. But like any good first date you tend to divulge too much or use your best “material” early. And then what happens on the second or third date? You lose confidence and pretend you need to be that person on the first date. Or you form expectations you can’t live up to so you disappear.

So - my advice is - just slow down. Any worthy date leaves little mystery - something to be desired. Any good sub or domme isn’t going anywhere - they’re invested in the dynamic. If they get off or whatever and ghost well then they were only in for a cheap thrill and hopefully there was some compensation. But any good sub or domme who is interested in you wants to play and have a second and third date.

So do everyone a favor and stop treating the first meeting like the only meeting. If it is - fine but just slow down your pace and things may be ok