Darwinian Servitude

So. I’m (35m) starting to open myself up to the idea of another service dynamic. However, I find the vibe/ethos of Femdom in online spaces somewhat dispiriting.

For context, this is not an observation about kink in general. Kink has been good to me, I’ve lots of friends in the local scene, I attend parties and I play with some really great people. But I miss the intensity and the feelings of being owned, I miss building that deeper connection, I miss serving someone who knows how to be served.

My issue is that it feels like Femdom subs are repeatedly given the message that a sub without a Domme is a failure. Like their single-ness is their fault exclusively, rather than the result of complicated factors.