8 Months of Training: Evolution of Our Key Hand-off

My wife and I started playing around with chastity at the end of last summer. We are a long-term married couple that was trying to resolve some libido mismatch and make my wife more comfortable with intimacy. I've always had a lot of kinky interests, my wife was pure vanilla. She was interested in trying chastity though and being my keyholder.

I've shared some actual sex and femdom stories from how our relationship has evolved, but I thought talking about our key dynamics would be interesting.

She started by just hiding the key. Then started wearing it around the house. Then she started wearing it out publicly around friends.

We talk very openly with each other and shared feedback as we move through this together. It became quite clear femdom is a shared kink we have, so we started shaping our key handoff around that.

We created a ceremony of requesting it for hygiene and sharing a kiss as I handed it back and verbally resubmitted to her. Something to the effect of "I submit to you", "Yours to command, My Queen" "I belong to you", etc. Then we got her a custom key with her initials and mine to celebrate 6-months of very happy chastity.

We jointly requested elements to be added as time went on. For me, I like to talk about new things in the downtime. She likes to add them in the moment because my reaction is part of her joy.

Now she actively dominates me during our morning ceremony and this is what it looks like:

She commands me to kneel as I hold the key up. She will not take it from me until she's satisfied I am submissive enough, ordering me to kneel lower and bow my head to the ground or sometimes I am told to be silent and put the key between my lips and my arms behind my back. Instead of kissing me after taking the key, I am usually asked to take off her socks and kiss her feet. If she's feeling frisky she may aggressively grab me by the balls and ask me to praise her in some way or remind me about a quest she has for me for the day until she releases me. Once she is satisfied, and I redress her feet, she pats me on the head and says "Good boy," and I don't get up until she specifically tells me which may be after she walks away depending on her mood.

Once I'm up and follow her to wherever she has gone, we share our regular romantic kiss and go about our normal lives until some "bonding time" later that evening.

She has a caramel-sutra core to her vanilla...